We are happy to feature a guest blogger this week, Sebastian Harris of Global Seducers, to discuss 10 essential ingredients for the perfect relationship cake.
A perfect relationship is like a cake. If one ingredient is missing, you can throw away the whole thing.
I know what you are thinking right now.
“How can you be so cruel to say that I should end my relationship, even though there is just one missing ingredient that would make it perfect?”
I say this because I have seen too many men who ended up and stayed in relationships in which they felt frustrated, unloved and completely unhappy. Whenever someone says to me that his relationship is okay and that no relationship is perfect, I get my hackles up.
The statement that there is no perfect relationship and that you can’t find someone who is perfect for you is nothing but an excuse. It’s an excuse to stay in the unfulfilling relationship that you are currently trapped in, instead of leaving the safe harbor in order to go on a quest to find the girl of your dreams.
How do you know if you have finally found the girl and the relationship of your dreams? The following ten ingredients will show you if she’s perfect for you or not. Let’s find out if you won the lottery or the booby prize.
- Unlimited Support
The first ingredient of a perfect relationship is unlimited support. It is relatively easy to support someone if he is absolutely fine, if he makes enough money and if he is in good health. Every woman will be there for you when everything is fine. However, not every woman will give you the support that you need when you are at your lowest.
The girl who is still there for you when you lose everything is the girl you should keep in your life when you achieve success. In fact, you are more likely to achieve success if you have a girlfriend who supports you in everything you do.
A woman who supports you, who encourages you and who motivates you to follow your own path, makes it a lot easier to achieve your goals.
Sometimes your girlfriend does things that annoy you. Maybe her skin care products cover the whole bathroom floor and maybe you want to cry whenever she asks you to watch a romantic comedy movie with her. There are probably also a couple of things that are annoying for her. Just think about football, video games and burping.
Unhappy couples and happy couples have a different way of dealing with those things. Unhappy couples try to change each other. This endeavor results in endless conversation and arguments that can’t be won.
Happy couples won’t try to change each other. They simply accept the peculiarities of their partner. They don’t do this because they have to, but because they want to. That’s what you do when you love someone.
- Unconditional Love
Unconditional love is another extremely important ingredient of the perfect relationship cake. If your girlfriend loves you unconditionally, she also loves you when you have an argument or when you are thousands of miles away.
You won’t ever experience what it means to be loved in an unconditional way, if you waste your time with girls who only love your money and your status, while they pretend to love the amazing person you truly are.
Unless your girlfriend loves you in a real, authentic and unconditional way, you shouldn’t even think about settling down. Settling down is only worthwhile if you have found a girl who thinks “you are the love of my life” while she looks you deep into the eyes.
“These hoe’s ain’t loyal”
When you believe Chris Brown, most girls will leave you as soon as another guy with more money shows up. I wouldn’t say that most girls would do that, but I can’t doubt the fact that there are some women out there who are anything but loyal. Of course there are also a lot of men who are anything but loyal.
There are already enough men and women for whom loyalty is nothing but an outdated word with no meaning. I really hope that you and your girlfriend know the importance of loyalty and that you know how essential it is for a relationship.
If your girlfriend isn’t loyal, you won’t ever be able to trust her. I don’t know about you but I don’t want to be in a relationship with a person who I can’t trust.
- Laughing about the Same Stupid Jokes
Humor is an important part of life. Joking around and laughing is good for your mood and for your health. The only thing that is even worse than having no one to joke around with is spending your time with someone you can’t joke around with.
I know from my own experience how frustrating it can be to be in a relationship with a girl who has absolutely no humor. Seriously, she couldn’t even raise the corners of her mouth without getting a cramp.
If you can’t laugh about the same things, you won’t be able to create as many unforgettable and fun moments as couples who have the same humor. Sooner or later you’ll get the feeling that there is something missing in your relationship.
- Sharing Your Life
A lot of people say that the best aspect of a relationship is that you can share your life with another person. The only tricky thing is that most of those people have absolutely no clue what it really means to share your life with someone.
Sharing your life with another human being consists of more than saying that your working day wasn’t as bad as the last one. Sharing your life with someone means revealing your deepest fears, your insecurities, your joy and your dreams. It means opening up and accepting your own vulnerability by showing your real face.
A girl who allows you to take off your mask and to reveal your true self is a girl who deserves it to be called a perfect girlfriend.
- Walking on the Same Path
If your path is completely different than the path of your girlfriend, you should better walk in two opposite directions. It might be hard to accept but the truth is that you can’t plan a future together if you both want different things in your life.
You can’t expect to end up happily ever after if you want to travel the world without any obligations and she wants to start a family. Eventually, you’ll both end up miserable because you agree upon some wishy-washy compromise that isn’t good for both of you.
If it is your dream to walk the path of life with the woman of your dreams you should make sure that this woman wants to walk in the same direction as you.
- Having the Same Values
Your values determine your actions and your behavior. In case you are a person who values honesty and respect, you probably don’t want to waste your time with people who are lying to you and who disrespect you. The last thing you want is to date an inauthentic and fake girl. At least I hope so.
What you want is a girl who has the same values as you. You want a girl who is honest, who shows you her real face and who respects you in public and at home. That’s the kind of girl you want and that’s the kind of girl who will make you happy.
A relationship with a girl who doesn’t have the same values as you will only force you to pretend to be someone you are not. This is something that no man should ever do.
- Enjoying the Moment without Words
Do you know what I enjoy most in my relationship? I enjoy that I can just be me and that I feel loved and fulfilled while being in the presence of my girlfriend. I can be in the same room with her for twenty minutes without saying a word and still feel this incredible sense of connection.
Enjoying the moment without words is something that only a few couples are able to do. Once you have found a girl who makes you happy by just being near you, you should do everything to make her stay.
- Practicing the Art of Listening
Talking is easy but listening is an art that many people never learned to master. We human beings love to talk about ourselves and sometimes it seems that we are totally happy as long as we hear our own voice every day.
The only thing that a lot of men are not so enthusiastic about is listening to what the girl they are together with has to say. This changes as soon as you have found the right girl. I can listen to my girlfriend for hours and I never get bored.
From the first day of our relationship we practiced the art of listening. We talked about everything and we tried to get to know us through our words. This allowed us to find out more about each other within a couple of days than other couples find out in ten years of marriage.
A girl who listens to all your problems and your dreams will be the one who helps you to solve those problems and to live the life of your dreams.
Special thank you to our guest blogger this week, Sebastian Harris of Global Seducer.