Are you a picky dater?  Is your choosiness leaving you feeling more lonely and frustrated than ever?  You are not the only one.  Women often confuse having a long list of pre-requisites with having high standards.  When dating to find a lasting relationship, you don’t have to settle; but you may have to settle down and be realistic about what it means to being in a loving and equal partnership.  

You can benefit by doing a little personal work to determine your core needs before seeking out the perfect mate.  By delineating your future goals, values, morals and principles, you can give yourself guidelines for realistic deal-breakers and must-haves in a relationship.  It’s important to be concise and really focus on your core needs and not the superficial aspects that may have led you astray in the past.  Anytime your list has veered into something too superficial, take a step back and reevaluate what is truly important to your heart and soul.


After this refinement, when you’ve determined what is meaningful and important to you in a partner, you will have more success in finding someone who will be a match for your overall well being.  Once you let go of the need to seek perfection and allow yourself to be surprised, the second-guessing that left you frustrated in the past will lead to a wealth of opportunities.  When you’re listening to your heart and meeting your core needs, you’re never settling for anything less than the warmth and love you deserve.