Dating in Miami can be tough. Scratch that, it can be very frustrating. With so many beautiful people, flashy cars, and high rollers, it can be hard to just meet someone of substance. The bar scenes are crawling with the same people night after night, searching for the latest hookup, not really searching for love. In all the superficiality, a girl’s gotta ask, “where are all the quality guys?”
The good news is: they do exist! Just like those dolphins you can sometimes catch a glance of in Biscayne bay. The only thing is, you have to look for them. No one said it would be easy to find a great guy. If it were, we would all be instantly in awesome relationships. The truth is, the harder you work the better the reward. Here are some tips for dating, and living the single life in Miami:
Don’t Get Caught Up in the Nightlife
When I first moved to Miami, I found myself going out every other night (and feeling horrible the next day). There’s a lure about Miami’s nightclub scene. It’s so exhilarating to go out and get dressed up, party into the wee hours of the mourning, have gentlemen buy you drinks. But there’s also something very hollow about it. The more I went out, the more empty it felt. And soon I started to see through Miami’s nightlife charm. Instead of going out all the time, limit yourself to once a week or once every two weeks and find something fun and interesting to do in its place.
Get Involved in the Community
There are so many cool things to do in Miami. Try something different like go to an art gallery, take up guitar lessons, or learn how to cook! Miami has plenty of sports leagues, lectures, yoga classes, painting classes and so much more. Think about your interests and think about your ideal guy’s interests. Where would he be on a Saturday night? Maybe he’d be at the gym. Sign up for a gym membership and head there. If he is more of a nature guy, go to the local farmer’s market. There are plenty of ways to meet guys that don’t involve a sleazy bar.
If You Meet Someone Awesome, Don’t Let Them Pass You By
Hello? He’s walking away! I have to yell this to my girlfriend’s all the time. There is an old fashioned notion that the guy should always ask the girl for her number. But if you had an amazing conversation with a guy, you seem like you really connected, and now you are watching him walk away, you are just as much at fault as he is for not taking action! Women- yes you are allowed to ask for his number. He might be too shy to say it. Then you walk away, never to see each other again even though he might have been the absolute best guy for you. Take initiative. Don’t let him pass you by.