Dating expertsknow that creating attraction before you even speak to a woman is all about confidence. This is something that comes naturally to some men but is often something that others need to work on. So how is it done? How do you make women attracted to you before you ever speak to them? Forget all of the gimmicks and B.S. tricks. What you’re after is the appearance of simple, natural confidence. The last thing you want is to come across as the guy who is poorly implementing tips from a training series he just bought from some douchy, self-proclaimed ‘Pick-up Artist’. Maybe that stuff works on weak women with very little self-esteem, but an intelligent, confident woman can smell that garbage from a mile away, and that’s the true prize. Right?
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For some people, age is only a number and has no affect on their dating life. But for others, the age of the person they are dating is a quite remarkable factor. In fact, your own age could be affecting your dating life in ways you’ve perhaps not taken into consideration. Some men and women who are in their mid-to-late-20s might like to date people who are much older than them. The attraction could be that an older date may be more financially stable, have a steady career, or have more life experience, all of which are attractive attributes in a long-term partner.
Ladies, when you’re out on the town and hoping to attract a fellow, remember this old adage: Less is more. The simplest approach is almost always the most effective. You’ll be surprised what steady eye contact and a friendly, inviting smile will yield if you’re looking to be picked up at your next social outing. And be sure to position yourself in an easily accessible location for a man to approach you – no hiding in the corner booth or back in the shadows. If you’re putting yourself out there to meet a new man, and you have an inkling that he might be someone you’re interested in, let him know. Playing coy can only get you so far and might do more harm than good on the initial meeting. Subtly implying the prospect of some sort of future intimacy sends the message that dating is something you’d like to do.
Over the last decade or so, we have been ever increasingly conditioned for optimism. We have been bombarded with the philosophies of dozens of positive thinking gurus and our media outlets show us entertainment instead of the news that should be important to us … mostly so that we stay positive and pacified. I suppose this is in many ways a good thing. But is wandering the planet with our rose colored goggles of sanguinity damaging our ability to maintain good relationships? Although we can’t say for sure, I am going to give you some things to consider that make a very strong argument for yes, optimism can be unhealthy.
We all want to be number one in the eyes of our significant other. It’s part of the Disneyesque fantasy that most of us have been programmed with. This is why I hear the term ‘deal-breaker’ thrown around so haphazardly when it comes to dating a person who has children from a previous relationship. Dating someone with kids (in the hearts & minds of those who have no children) can feel like there is a living, breathing reminder that they are not going to be the number one priority ... front and center at all times. Not only is this type of thinking unfair to single parents out there, but people could be missing out on someone great just because of a few negative, preconceived notions.