Many people already know how to ask for a first date – their problem later may be asking for a second date in order to foster a relationship. There are different reasons it can be difficult to ask for a second date. For example, the first date might not have gone well or perhaps something happened that turned off your date. Or maybe your date is just not interested enough in you to agree to a second date. Although there is never any guarantee that your first date will lead to a second, you can stack the odds in your favor so that your date will find you appealing enough to want to spend more time with you.
Your first date is crucial if you are looking to date someone for the long term. So be sure to put your best foot forward so that you appear as someone your date would love to be associated with. This means paying extra attention to grooming and style in preparation for your first date. First impressions are really important, no matter what some people might say, so you should make it a point to leave a favorable memory during your first date. This only increases the possibility for a second date – so be sure to keep up the good image on future dates as well. People feel comforted around those who give an air of confidence and control, and this begins with how you present yourself to the world.
Second, do away with any poor moods before you go on a date. It may happen that you asked someone on a first date, but something happened to put you in a bad state of mind right before the date itself. Your foul mood can shoot down any hopes of going on a second date, so be sure to try to put yourself in a more light-hearted state of mind before heading out on your date. No one wants to spend their free time with a mope. If you think that you won’t be able to shake off your funk in time, you can always call or text and ask to move the date to a more favorable time. If your date asks why, simply explain that the timing didn’t work out, but assure them that you are looking forward to seeing them soon so that they do not feel put off.
Third, do ask your date about him or herself on the first date. Not only does this show that you are really interested in your date, but it allows your date to reciprocate by asking questions about you. If your date seems a bit guarded, you can bring down their defenses through self-disclosure. You can say something like, “Isn’t this a great restaurant? I come here as often as I can, because the food is amazing.” Note that you are inviting input with this kind of introduction so that you don’t monopolize the conversation.
Asking someone for a second date can be good if the person you met is someone you truly want to spend more time with. You should make as good an impression on your date as you can so that they will think the same about you. This will smooth the path to an easy second date and beyond to a lasting relationship.